Discovering Marriage Agendas (Please Answer using separate paper)	
1.	Is your spouse a good or best friend? Why or why not? 

2.	Where have you struggled with disappointment in your marriage?

3.	When do you get angry in your marriage?

4. 	Where do you encounter problems with you spouse?

5.	What are the situations of life that you have found particularly difficult as husband and wife? 

6. 	What things (or subjects) do you regularly seek to avoid as a couple? Why?

7.	How would you describe your spiritual unity as a couple? Where have you experienced regular problems in you spiritual life, or in your relationship with God?

8.	Where or when have you tended to doubt the truths of Scripture as it relates to your marriage?

9.	What agendas do you have for your spouse?

10.	What is your definition of a good relationship? 

11.	What are your expectations of your spouse? What have you done to communicate those?

12.	What silent demands do you make of your spouse? How have you communicated those?

13. 	Where in your life have your struggled with bitterness in your marriage?

14.	When do you say, “If only...”? (e.g., “If only my spouse would...”)

15.	What past experiences do you struggle with letting go? Are there things in your relationship that have caused you to ‘check out’?

16.	What do you pray about?

17.	When do you tend to experience problems in your prayer life or personal worship?

18.	Has your spouse offended or sinned against you without seeking forgiveness? 

19.	Do you feel guilty at times for not seeking unity in your marriage? What have you tried?

20.	What do you see as your rights?

21.	Where do you find refuge, comfort , pleasure or security?